Part personal, part political, part observation. I'm not quite a bleeding heart liberal, but I won't hesitate to call people out if deserved.
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Merriam-Webster’s definition of feminism. 1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes 2: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests I am a feminist. I believe that women should have the same rights as men. The rights to choose their own careers, the rights to have or not have families, … Continue reading...
Merriam-Webster’s definition of feminism.
1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests
I am a feminist. I believe that women should have the same rights as men. The rights to choose their own careers, the rights to have or not have families, the rights to be paid equal pay for equal work. And it pisses me off that women have been “given” these rights, as if we should feel special for getting something we should have had all along. I support women in their choices, even if those choices may not be my own.
I had an interesting experience a couple of weeks ago that left me scratching my head. It was the first chilly morning of the season, which meant that the tire pressure monitoring system in my car freaked out. I didn’t want to deal with putting air in the tires and figuring out which tire was the problem, so I made a quick trip over to Firestone, where I knew they would check the tires for free.
There was a woman at the counter, and I told her that I wanted to have the tires checked.
“Sure, we can do that. Do you know how to do it? If you don’t, I can show you.”
As a matter of fact, I do know how to check the air pressure in tires, and I do know how to add air. So I found myself in the position of feeling like I should explain why I didn’t do it myself. Except that “Because I didn’t want to” didn’t seem like a great explanation.
But why not? Why isn’t that a good enough reason? Isn’t that the point of feminism, to allow women to make their own choices? So why did I feel guilty about choosing to outsource a task that I didn’t want to do myself? And why did the woman at the counter assume that I didn’t know how to check the tires?
She directed me on where to park, and she checked the tires. It was the third tire she checked that was the culprit, just tripped by the colder weather. And she gave me this, you know, so I can check my own tire pressure next time.
It’s November, so my social media feed is filled with gratitude posts. I enjoy reading them, but I’m pretty lousy at managing to post about it every single day, so I’m modifying it a bit. I like to give credit where credit is due, so I’m using this particular one. https://www.facebook.com/ThisGreenCottageWitch/photos/a.904400939729669/1080734415429653/?type=3&theater I’m behind a little bit. … Continue reading 30 Days of Gratitude. All...
It’s November, so my social media feed is filled with gratitude posts. I enjoy reading them, but I’m pretty lousy at managing to post about it every single day, so I’m modifying it a bit. I like to give credit where credit is due, so I’m using this particular one. https://www.facebook.com/ThisGreenCottageWitch/photos/a.904400939729669/1080734415429653/?type=3&theater
I’m behind a little bit. Life sometimes gets in the way.
November 1 – What smell are you grateful for today? Rain. Which is kind of funny, since I am NOT a rain person. But for the longest time, I couldn’t smell it. My husband could. Other people could. I could not. And then I suddenly could.
November 2 – What technology are you grateful for? My phone. I know, I know. But having the internet at my fingertips, the ability to contact anyone I need to reach within seconds, the ability to read a book or play a game. If you’ve ever known the feeling of being tied to a home phone, so you didn’t miss a phone call from someone you may not have been able to speak to for months, you’ll understand.
November 3 – What color are you grateful for? Purple. It can be bold, it can be soft, and I like the way it looks on me.
November 4 – What food are you most grateful for? Mashed potatoes and gravy. It’s my comfort food.
November 5 – What sound are you grateful for today? Laughter. There’s never enough and never too much.
November 6 – What sound in nature are you grateful for? Thunder. Another funny one, since I have been scared of storms for much of my life. I still get nervous with big storms (and hurricanes!), but I appreciate thunder.
November 7 – What memory are you grateful for? Not so much one memory, but knowing that I was a priority for my parents. They juggled schedules to make sure I could do things, and they always managed to attend special things.
November 8 – What book are you most grateful for? Oh, damn. This one’s hard. I’m going to go with Pride and Prejudice, but not for the reasons you might think. I actually hated the book, hated the characters, and it taught me that you don’t *have to love a book that everyone else loves.
November 9 – What place are you most grateful for? The beach. Any ocean beach. It’s the place that soothes my soul.
November 10 – What taste are you grateful for today? Sweet. Dear God, I love sweets.
November 11 – What holiday are you grateful for? Thanksgiving. We’ve stopped cooking a huge meal and have either eaten out or ordered a dinner for the past couple of years. Very low stress, and it turns into a day of just being, not doing.
November 12 – What texture are you grateful for? Soft, not scratchy. I’m really sensitive to scratchy fabrics, so I steer clear of wool and other things that itch.
November 13 – What abilities are you grateful for? The ability to love.
November 14 – What sight are you grateful for today? Seeing people resist.
November 15 – What season are you grateful for? Here, fall. It’s my reward after the most brutal summers.
November 16 – What about your body are you grateful for? That it hasn’t failed me. It’s still going, not without issues, but that’s better than the alternative.
November 17 – What knowledge are you grateful for? The knowledge that I can trust myself.
November 18 – What piece of art are you grateful for? Oh. Umm… I love admiring art, although I’m regrettably lacking in knowledge of it. I have some local art that I’ve collected over the years.
November 19 – What touch are you grateful for today? Hugs. I’m sometimes not a touchy-feely person, but hugs are good.
November 20 – Who in your life are you grateful for? The people who know the real me and support me.
November 21 – What song are you most grateful for? Amazing Grace. I’m not particularly religious anymore, but that song always gives me chills.
November 22 – What story are you most grateful for? The story of how far women have come, and how much farther we still have to go.
November 23 – What tradition are you grateful for? Taking vacations, even short ones, with my husband and kids. Those are some of my most treasured times.
November 24 – What challenge are you grateful for? Leaving my hometown. I’m so glad about living in the places I’ve lived, seeing the things I’ve seen, that I never would have if I had stayed in my hometown.
November 25 – What moment this week are you most grateful for? By the 25th, I’m likely to have an entirely different answer, but this week, we’ll go with not having my mouth hurt. Dental work last week.
November 26 – What form of expression are you most grateful for? Writing. It pays some of the bills, too.
November 27 – What small thing that you use daily are you grateful for? Key fobs. The battery in mine is dying (after I already traded keys with my husband after THAT one died, lol), so I’m going to have to bite the bullet and get a new one.
November 28 – What small thing that happened today are you grateful for? I had time for a nap.
November 29 – What friend/family member are you grateful for today? My husband. He’s my rock.
November 30 – What talent or skill do you have that you are grateful for? Building boxes. It helps me at work, lol.
First, let me say, that I really don’t like working in retail. I’m not a people person, and spending a year working at a big box retail store years ago confirmed that, lol. However, I’ve worked for the past 4 years in the e-commerce side of a wholesale business, and I’ve discovered that I do … Continue reading Adventures in...
First, let me say, that I really don’t like working in retail. I’m not a people person, and spending a year working at a big box retail store years ago confirmed that, lol. However, I’ve worked for the past 4 years in the e-commerce side of a wholesale business, and I’ve discovered that I do enjoy that. Probably because I don’t have to SEE people, lol. I’ve also discovered that there’s just as much strangeness involved in online sales as there is in brick and mortar stores. No names, in order to protect the not-so-innocent.
About 90% of customer questions could be answered themselves if they would only READ.
“What’s the measurement of the curtain panel?” The title and description clearly stated the measurements.
We’ve gotten complaints from customers upon receiving a single curtain panel, even though the title and description clearly stated that it was a single curtain panel. “But the picture shows two curtains!” Well, yeah, because it’s weird to see a window with only one curtain panel.
Nearly all of our products are offered with free economy shipping, with expedited shipping available for a fee (usually about $3). At least once a week, I receive an email asking if we can promise they’ll receive an item by such-and-such date, but they didn’t pay for expedited shipping.
It’s not unusual to receive multiple emails from a person, with the same question, over and over. Within hours. Apparently, we’re not expected to step away from the computer.
When we have clothes for sale, we try to include a size chart. That didn’t stop one person from asking, “I wear a European Size 36. What US size is that?” It also didn’t stop the same person, after no one responded immediately, from sending a second email. “I see you’re going to be a little bitch and not answer.” BTW, we can and do block people from making purchases through our eBay store for such harassment.
“My 5 year old is big for her age. What size should I buy?” No idea, ma’am.
We had a customer complain that her purchased product was shipped via UPS instead of USPS. This was during a hurricane, and the post office shut down completely for several days. However, UPS was open. You know they would have complained if we had just waited to ship it.
This one happens frequently. If we’re out of stock in a particular size, someone will deliberately purchase a different size, then contact us to request the correct size. Look, if we’re out of stock, we’re out of stock. We’re not just hoarding the other sizes, lol.
Returns with customers open up an entirely different can of worms. “This color isn’t exactly the same as the other curtains I purchased somewhere else,” so the customer starts a return for “Item not as described.” We’re just going off of the manufacturer’s description. It’s not our fault if the curtains labeled “Dusty Rose” that you bought from us don’t match the Dusty Rose curtains you bought elsewhere. We research items to make sure they do match the manufacturer’s description.
Sometimes, we sell items with damaged packaging. It’s a way for customers to buy something at an extremely discounted price. When we do this, we clearly state that the package has been damaged. But there’s always a person who complains after receiving it, which goes back to my earlier statement that so many of these issues could be alleviated if they just READ the description.
Last week, a customer contacted us, a full week after the order was shipped, to request it be sent to a different address. And then opened up a return for “Item not received.” Yes, your item wasn’t received because you gave us the wrong address!
I think my favorite one, though, may be the customer who returned fake garland. “It looked too fake.”
Infuriating. That’s the only word I can come up with about today’s Senate hearing with Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh. I thought, hoped that we had progressed beyond this. Obviously not. I am so bitterly disappointed and angry with the men (I can’t even bring myself to refer to them by their titles) who … Continue reading It’s All Come Down...
Infuriating. That’s the only word I can come up with about today’s Senate hearing with Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh. I thought, hoped that we had progressed beyond this. Obviously not.
I am so bitterly disappointed and angry with the men (I can’t even bring myself to refer to them by their titles) who sit on the Judiciary Committee. Frankly, I hope they rot in hell.
Please vote in November. It matters.
This wasn’t my original plan for posting. However, when I opened up Facebook this morning, the very first post I saw was this. Screenshot from my computer. I started seeing this meme yesterday. First, let me say that I don’t mind memes that are meant to be funny. I’m not a fan of memes that … Continue reading We Interrupt This Programming to Bring You a Stupid Action By a...
This wasn’t my original plan for posting. However, when I opened up Facebook this morning, the very first post I saw was this. Screenshot from my computer.
I started seeing this meme yesterday. First, let me say that I don’t mind memes that are meant to be funny. I’m not a fan of memes that promote false information. The image in the lower right corner is actually true, but the images of Anderson Cooper are not from Florence. Snopes is one of my favorite resources. https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/anderson-cooper-hurricane/
Take note of who posted this. The Summerville Police Department. An agency that should NOT attack the media. An agency that should ESPECIALLY not attack the media in reference to a hurricane. Yes, Florence was not a big deal here. But you cannot tell people to pay attention to the local news and follow it, and then post a meme about fake news. No. Just no. There are so many reasons.
One, I’m sick of the attacks on the media. You don’t get to declare something “fake news” just because you don’t like it. I’m sick of being gaslighted by our president and told that things I’ve seen and heard didn’t happen. I’m sick of other countries meddling in social media and actively trying to sway the people and elections in this country. And mostly, I’m sick of people taking part in it and believing everything they see on the internet.
Two, it was posted by a police department! Inappropriate in every sense of the word. Official agencies should NOT be posting opinions or memes. They should not be discrediting other agencies. An official FB page should be used for posting FACTS. Period.
Three, this area was rocked by the Walter Scott shooting, in which a white police officer shot a man of color in the back. That puts all police departments in this area under scrutiny, and someone thought it was a good idea to post THAT? Again, no. No. No.
I’m also including the message I received when I sent a message through Facebook.
Our county in South Carolina has been under a mandatory evacuation since Tuesday. We did not evacuate. Now, before you start judging, hear me out. I’m not a hurricane rookie. Erin, Floyd, Irene, Sandy, effects of Joaquin, Matthew, and Irma. I think that’s the list. My comfort level extends through a Category 2 storm. We … Continue reading Hurricane Weary – No, We...
Our county in South Carolina has been under a mandatory evacuation since Tuesday. We did not evacuate. Now, before you start judging, hear me out.
I’m not a hurricane rookie. Erin, Floyd, Irene, Sandy, effects of Joaquin, Matthew, and Irma. I think that’s the list. My comfort level extends through a Category 2 storm. We received 26 inches of rain from the effects of Joaquin in 2015, and my particular residence and parking lot were fine. Same thing happened with Matthew in 2016. Again, we were okay. Lots of people around us were NOT okay, and if my address had flooded in either of those two storms, it would have been a different story.
So when I got up last Saturday morning to find that Charleston was in the bulls eye for a Category 4 Florence, we started making plans. We made reservations at a pet-friendly hotel out of the path, and I know how unpredictable these storms are, so I made sure I knew the cancellation policy. Monday, the evacuation orders were made known, and all schools were closed. By Tuesday, most businesses were closing, so we’ve all been hanging out at home. By late Tuesday, the storm track was shifting, and although the governor still hasn’t lifted the evacuation order, our county wasn’t even included in the hurricane watch. I trust the National Weather Service, so on Wednesday morning, we canceled the hotel reservation. Had Florence remained focused on Charleston, I assure you, we would have been gone. I don’t want to experience the storm that was originally predicted.
Today, we’re under a tropical storm warning and expecting some winds and heavy rain later. Certainly not any worse than we’ve had the past three years. However, it’s a weird feeling to be both relieved that we’re not getting a direct hit, and know that someone else is. I’m weary of storms. This is four in four years. If you’ve never been through the stress of hurricane prep, imagine being on high alert for days on end. Do you stay? Go? Go where? What’s the most important stuff that needs to go with you? Can you afford a hotel for 3-4 days or more? Can you even find a hotel, especially one that allows pets? Do you have vacation time to use? What if you don’t have vacation time? Your bills don’t go away because your place of employment is closed for days, even a week.
These are the things that weigh on residents before a hurricane. You’re mentally exhausted before the storm even arrives. This is what I mean when I say “hurricane weary.”
I may prefer blizzards, after all.
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