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I may or may not have alluded to the fact that I am completely Gilmore Girls obsessed. In 2007, I binged the first six seasons of Gilmore Girls with my mom, and we watched the final season as it aired. I don’t know what brought me to the series, and my inevitable Gilmore Girls obsession, but I wish I did so I could give it a big wet thank you kiss. Top ten examples of my Gilmore Girls obsession: My daughter’s name is Lorelai. And even though the traditional spelling of Lorelai is...
I may or may not have alluded to the fact that I am completely Gilmore Girls obsessed. In 2007, I binged the first six seasons of Gilmore Girls with my mom, and we watched the final season as it aired. I don’t know what brought me to the series, and my inevitable Gilmore Girls obsession, but I wish I did so I could give it a big wet thank you kiss.
Top ten examples of my Gilmore Girls obsession:
- My daughter’s name is Lorelai. And even though the traditional spelling of Lorelai is actually Lorelei, we used Lorelai after the queen herself.
- I used to live in New Milford, CT for years, specifically because it reminded me of Stars Hollow. It had a Fall Festival, a town green, and a gazebo. It was glorious.
- I own the Gilmore Girls DVD box set, as well as each season on Amazon, because there was a terrible time back in the day when Netflix didn’t have a streaming service. Also, when I binged the show, it was through the Netflix mail service, that only allowed you to get two DVDs at a time. It took a while.
- I told my husband that he was the Luke to my Lorelai during our wedding vows. Afterwards when we were reminiscing, he was like “yeah, when I heard that I was like ‘whoa, she really means it.'”
- I volunteered at the Gilmore Girls Fan Festival last year, and spent all day losing my shit over all of the Gilmore stars.
- I listen to Gilmore Girls in the car, instead of the radio. It’s also always playing when I go to sleep, because if I try to sleep in silence, my brain runs amok (it’s a big bag of weird in there). I’ve been doing this since Netflix started streaming it back in 2014, which means I’ve probably listened to the show all the way through over 100 times.
- I went through a bought of depression for about two years starting in 2011 and all I did was go to work, watch Gilmore Girls on DVD, and play music. The show literally helped me stay on this planet. Interestingly enough, I’m not the only one who has found emotional support from this show: How Gilmore Girls Saved My Soul and How the ‘Gilmore Girls’ Revival Helped Me Accept My Mental Health Story, U.S. Marines say “Gilmore Girls” offered “escapism” from times of war.
- I loved EVERYTHING about the revival. Loved the fact that Rory was a mess, loved the fact that Lorelai and Luke hadn’t had kids because they just never talked about it, loved everything about Emily, loved April (especially when she said that lawyers are fascists, it literally made me laugh out loud), loved the Life and Death Brigade montage, loved the musical, seriously loved the musical (it makes me laugh out loud every time), loved that Rory was sleeping with Logan as part of her being lost and seeking something easy and comfortable, loved Luke’s speech at the end…I could go on and on. I could count the elements I didn’t like on one hand.
–Also, this is one of the greatest things I’ve ever seen:
- In one of my ambitious phases, I registered for a business ID, and the business name I used was Copper Boom.
- I like people more when I find out they love with Gilmore Girls. It’s like when you find out that someone you know has the same birthday as you. I admit that I’m always a little disappointed when people have never seen the show. Don’t get me wrong, we can still talk even if you haven’t watched the show. I won’t hold it against you :).
I get that Gilmore Girls is a show written by people I’ve never met, but to me it is so much more. It’s a place of solace, a source of comfort, a piece of home that I can take with me wherever I go, and family that I call my own.
Do you love Gilmore Girls? Have you never seen an episode of the show (don’t worry, I won’t judge)? Did you love or hate the revival?
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First and foremost, I need to say that I am in no way mocking recovery programs with the title of this blog post. I am a huge advocate for addiction recovery, and AA and NA are seriously awesome programs. That being said, I am an addict. I am addicted to buying domain names. I bought my first domain name in 2005, it was angelastunes.com and it was a space to showcase my music. As you can see, apologizing for my online absence is a tradition, eight years strong! Also, thanks to the Wayback...
First and foremost, I need to say that I am in no way mocking recovery programs with the title of this blog post. I am a huge advocate for addiction recovery, and AA and NA are seriously awesome programs.
That being said, I am an addict. I am addicted to buying domain names.
I bought my first domain name in 2005, it was angelastunes.com and it was a space to showcase my music.
As you can see, apologizing for my online absence is a tradition, eight years strong! Also, thanks to the Wayback Machine, I was able to hear songs that I posted back in 2011, which is pretty awesome!
Check this out –> All I Want is You
Since 2005, I have bought an additional 40 domain names! Not all of these domain names were lucky enough to actually turn into sites, in fact only about four ended up being sites, but I had big plans for each and every one of them.
I went through all of my email accounts and old hosting sites to find every domain name that I’ve ever purchased and I’m going to share them all with you, right here, right now.
- anikay.com – That’s where you are now
- backtocrunchy.com – This site was to highlight my journey back to a more simple and natural life after the hustle and bustle of corporate America.
- bellsandmasons.com – This site was about dealing with depression and anxiety through art. The bell is a reference to Sylvia Plath’s The Bell Jar, and the mason refers to mason jars. Seriously, google mason jar crafts…it’s a thing. I haven’t entirely given up on this one, I love art therapy.
- copperboombox.com – This is legit one of the best ideas I have ever had. Copper Boom Box is the name of the Gilmore Girls subscription box I was going to create. I am a GG freak, and I had some amazing ideas for this box. Maybe I’ll do it some day, but I barely have time to blog, let alone to start my own online subscription box business. Just so you know, the first box was going to have a Hello Kitty stamp in it, which my die hard fans would have loved!
- everydayehs.com – This one still exists, though I changed hosting a while back and didn’t export my content. I haven’t had the heart to load the site back up, so it’s been sitting there bare for a while. Also, the Twitter account for this site is followed by Smokey the Bear. So, I mean, do I really need to achieve anything else here?
- lavendervanillalatte.com – This was going to be my bullet journal and brush lettering site. I didn’t want to jack my Ani Kay site up with all of my bullet journal posts (of which there is currently one), so I planned on having a designated site for it. Turned out, I didn’t do either.
- mommabearlife.com – This is what this site was called before I realized that I am not a mommy blogger, and didn’t want to write about my kids or mom stuff. I feel like that sounds harsh, but I think that may be mommy guilt.
- wfhlife.com – Remember when I said I was going to write about being a work from home mom? Well, I bought this domain name to document my work-from-home journey. Aaaaand I did not make the time to do it.
- thanikay.com – so this one isn’t actually that interesting, I just bought this domain since all of my social media and email for this blog has ‘the’ in the beginning, if I really take off folks may be tempted to put a ‘the’ in the title when they search for my blog. Always thinking ahead, folks.
- veganspotting.com – I was really excited about this one, and I almost hired a web designer to help me with it. I wanted it to be a mix of Finding Vegan and Bigger Bolder Baking, I love the way the latter has the section for folks to post their own versions of the recipes on the site.
- wheresthegoodnews.com – I literally just bought this domain name last week. I have been reading so much bad news, and it’s making me crazed. It’s draining, exhausting, and downright depressing. So I decided to start my own news site, with only good news. I wanted to do the Good News Daily, from Gilmore Girls, but the name was taken.
- workingonworkingmom.com – ah Working On Working Mom, this blog was my baby. It was the first real blog I ever wrote, and I started it right after having Jack in 2012. I really loved this blog, and learned so much while writing it. This blog taught me how to be a blogger and it made me really feel like a professional writer.
- foodielight.com – I was trying to eat healthier, and I figured I’d document my journey on this site. I was going to show folks that they could eat healthy while still eating great food! I didn’t succeed in either task.
- veganinfive.com – Vegan meals either made in five minutes or made with only five ingredients! It had potential.
- mysocalledpresident.com – Embarrassingly, I bought this domain right after the 2016 election. I honestly thought I was going to write about the presidency, because we took the win pretty hard in this house. I’m glad I didn’t follow through with this one…for many many reasons.
- copperboomdesigns.com – This one was going to be for my web design business…for after I learned web design. I’ve got lofty goals, y’all!
- wearethepears.com – this site was another winner in terms of actually becoming a site that people visited! My band was called The Pears, and this is where we posted our videos and gig dates. I started this site with just html code, before I heard of WordPress. You can check out some of the videos here, Hallelujah is my favorite, it starts a little rough, but it gets better, I promise.
- cookfrombooks.com – I was going for a Julia/Julia type of vibe here. I was going to cook my way through all of my cookbooks, and document it on the blog.
- writesleeprepeat.com – This was going to be a collaborative site, I even created a survey to send out to all of my blogger friends. The site was going to be about writing, obvs. I kind of love that logo I made for this one.
- idreamofvegan.com – Another vegan site, there’s only one more after this. I created this one after having a dream about Alton Brown making me a vegan blueberry buckle. I used to watch a lot of Food Network.
- frommybrain.com – I bought this site for Eric and I to review movies. But we never actually did anything with it.
- graphsequential.com – I bought this one for Eric, and he actually used it. This is also the site where we published our Smallville Podcast, called Smallville Complete. It was pretty great.
- thecookingclassroom.com – I don’t remember if this was a site for me to teach cooking or to learn how to cook. Both would have been pretty ambitious goals. Sadly nothing became of this one.
- assaultandpepper.org – Yikes, so this one is a little dark. I created this site to talk about rape in popular shows like Family Guy, and how it was the topic of so many jokes. I had some good ideas, but never followed through.
- browniesandbiscuits.com – Two things that I have never been successful at making from scratch are brownies and biscuits. I think I created this one to try to work on that? But I can’t be certain.
- highlowconsult.com – Another consulting, web design, website.
- icanmakethishealthier.com – I bet you can guess what this one was going to be about.
- penletter.com – I actually really loved this idea, it was an online pen-pal program, similar to Facebook, but the connections would be one on one. Looking back on it, I don’t know what made this different than just sending emails back and forth. But, at the time it felt revolutionary.
- schoolofcrock.com – Another Julia/Julia scenario here. I was going to try to learn how to cook from Betty Crocker recipes.
- vegancookbookchallenge.com – Again, you can probably guess what this one is about.
- pinnypencher.com – The tagline for this one was, “when you’re so broke, you can’t afford to spell check”. Now, I was nowhere near being able to give financial advice when I created this site, but I kind of thought I could get out of debt and learn some tricks along the way that I could share with others to help them get out of debt.
- shesaysnow.com – My online magazine! I was actually inspired by the second season of Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce on this one. I had big plans for this magazine!
- getyourishstraight.com – If anyone is qualified to help you get your shit together it is someone who completely does not have their shit together!
- angelakhill – I have no idea why I created this one. I think it was another web consulting idea.
- workingonbeingmom.com – I bought this one because when I was writing Working On Working Mom I thought about not ditching the working mom aspect. Working mom blogs are in a smaller niche than the broader mommy blog category, and I wasn’t always certain I wanted to be writing in that small niche.
- lorelaigilmore.com – I was going to write about how to live like a Gilmore. Click on Lorelai or Rory and you’d get a break down of how to live your most Gilmore life. Did I mention that I’m a bit Gilmore Girls obsessed? I got this one just before Netflix announced they’d be putting out another season of Gilmore Girls, and I was hoping I’d be able to get enough content on it to somehow benefit from the new series. I got zero content on it.
- ournewfamilysite.com – I got this one when Jack was born, and was going to use it as an online scrapbook for our family. This one also never went anywhere.
- startrek365.com – I only wrote one post on here, and I wish Wayback Machine had a capture of it! I was going to watch one episode of Star Trek a day and then write about it. I watched one episode and wrote about it.
- cricketmall.org – This was going to be a site full of links to other sites. I know I know, the lowest common denominator for websites. But, it had a great tagline: Cricket Mall – You’ve gotta cricket before you click it. Come on, that’s a good one!
- karatechoprobots.com – I bought this one for Eric, for his birthday, to review movies. Sadly, he never used it.
Whew! If you’ve made it this far, you are a trooper and I love you!
So, technically I only bought about 3 domain names a year, which really doesn’t sound that bad. Unless I tell you that I bought three a year for 13 years, then it sounds like I have a problem.Hide the credit card and hosting site login - I'm feeling compulsively ambitious! Click To Tweet
What have I learned from this experience, you ask? Well, I was just about to buy another domain name just before writing this post. I recently applied for an MBA and I’m considering writing about it. But then I reminded myself that I have a bit of a domain name problem, and I can just create a series on this blog if I want to get down to it.
I love this blog, and I love my readers, so I’m going to try to focus on what I’ve got instead of going crazy with all these other ideas. I hope you’ll stick around with me!
Do you collect anything? I call it a collection because it sounds better than addiction. Let’s get real, what are you addicted to? Let me know in the comments!
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I don’t always follow my own tenets for joyful living, but one of the things that I have started is taking time to acknowledge the things that make me joyful. Whether it’s something big, like my beautiful children, or something small like a nice perfume or nail polish, I take a moment and show gratitude for the things that make me happy. This is a small list of my favorite things recently, they have continued to bring me peace and joy! The Smell I was in Texas a few weeks back and...
I don’t always follow my own tenets for joyful living, but one of the things that I have started is taking time to acknowledge the things that make me joyful. Whether it’s something big, like my beautiful children, or something small like a nice perfume or nail polish, I take a moment and show gratitude for the things that make me happy. This is a small list of my favorite things recently, they have continued to bring me peace and joy!
I was in Texas a few weeks back and walked into a store called Roanoke Trading Company, and it was legiterally something special. Have you ever been in a store that was full of things that you really liked? I normally don’t have this feeling, especially when it comes to stuff. I’m not a big stuff person, because my husband is a huge stuff person. And not huge, like he’s large, huge like one more step into darkness and we’d be in hoarder town.
This store was full of stuff, that I actually loved. But more than that, it smelled heavenly. Upon entering the store, I practically yelled out “what is that amazing smell?” And although it was a slightly rhetorical question, it quickly became a necessity and I asked the woman behind the counter again. I’d like to say that the second time I asked sounded less crazed, but it didn’t. The smell was so good
I’m guessing the woman had gotten this same questions a few times, because she brought me right to it:
It’s called Capri Blue Volcano and it smells so freakin good. It’s a little fruity and a little floral. Honestly it’s not the type of fragrance I usually go for, but this one has me under its spell. I spray it on myself throughout the day, cause I work from home now and I can do those things. And it makes me so happy.
I guess I knew that Whole Foods had nail polish, but it never really did anything for me. These days Whole Foods is sort of my happy place and also my source of deodorant, since I’ve gone natural. That’s not really a thing I’ve done, but I did start wearing natural deodorant. Aaaaand I’m not convinced it’s any good, but it smells great and it’s not loaded up with chemicals. Anyhoo, this nail polish is beautiful. The one on the left is called Blushing Crystal and the one on the right is called Shimmering Shale.
Vasanti Brighten Up! face wash came in a Birchbox before I canceled it a while back. I just realized it actually came in the Birchbox I shared back in January! You can read there why I canceled Birchbox, though this month I started back up. If it hadn’t been for the box, I wouldn’t have found this badass cleanser. It really has brightened up my skin. It’s made my face softer, and when I put on my BB cream, it glides on so smooth. The skin on my face is tricky, it gets super dry with harsh cleansers, and it also gets oily if I don’t tend to it regularly. Also I still occasionally get breakouts, so I like to use something exfoliating to help keep my pores clean. This cream does the trick, AND it restored my faith in Birchbox.
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Yes I’m almost 40, and no that does not deter me from eating gummy vitamins. But let me tell you why. When I was younger, for some reason I had to get an esophagram, which is essentially a camera on your esophagus. The doctors gave me a pill to swallow and watched it go down. The pill stopped in the middle of my esophagus and did’t go all the way down until I swallowed more water. For some reason my esophagus narrows, making large pills a nightmare. So I try to take gummy vitamins whenever possible. These gummy vitamins are veggie friendly and they don’t taste like complete garbage. Which is a win-win for me.
Full disclosure, they do not taste as good as Flintstones vitamins, which I took during each pregnancy. These vitamins are from Garden of Life and they are a Women’s Multi. They also have a Women’s Multi 40+, that I will be taking in less than four short years. Also, excuse me while I have an existential anxiety attack.
I’m going to admit something to you, that I’m not entirely proud of. Every time someone told me about essential oils, I immediately called BS and was all:
And then came Doterra Deep Blue Rub. Good god, y’all, this stuff actually works. I have a lot of issues with my back and my neck, and have for as long as I can remember. Also, remember the almost turning 40 thing? Yeah, apparently my body is just going to continue to have pains, and now all I have to do is bend down or dry my hair to throw my neck out.
This lotion is a miracle. I’ve used it on neck pain, back pain, and most importantly migraine pain. Migraines are the worst, and they can seriously ruin your entire day. In the past, the only thing I could do for a migraine was to take Excedrin, but I don’t do caffeine regularly so when I take Excedrin I’m bouncing off the walls! With this cream, I just rubbed it on my head and temples, and the migraine disappeared! But be warned, if you get this stuff too close to your eyes, you will be very very sorry. The mentholated fumes do not mix well with open vessels of any kind, so also don’t put this stuff on a cut.
Final thoughtsI know they say money can't buy happiness, but it can buy the things that make you happy. Or at least the things that bring you joy.Click To Tweet
I don’t need fancy cars or clothes to make me feel good and special. Little things make me happy, and I kind of love being that way. Also, I wouldn’t argue to being able to keep everything I love in one drawer to cut down on the horrible amount of stuff plaguing my house right now!
What are some of your favorite things these days? Where do you stand on the essential oil topic? Let me know in the comments!
*Image Credit: https://imgflip.com/memegenerator/Its-Not-Going-To-Happen
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So, I deleted my Instagram account. Yup, all 150 followers, gone. Along with all of those pictures, hashtags, and likes. Honestly, when I hit that delete button, I literally let out a sigh a relief. The sigh of relief that comes with deleting social media accounts, is the same as the one that comes with cutting your hair at home. And then it’s followed by that awful realization that you can’t put it back! Feeling relieved… Relief from what, you ask? Who the hell knows. The...
So, I deleted my Instagram account. Yup, all 150 followers, gone. Along with all of those pictures, hashtags, and likes. Honestly, when I hit that delete button, I literally let out a sigh a relief. The sigh of relief that comes with deleting social media accounts, is the same as the one that comes with cutting your hair at home. And then it’s followed by that awful realization that you can’t put it back!
Relief from what, you ask? Who the hell knows. The stress of having to post something pretty and clever, and coming up with the right hashtags to get visibility. The stress of how my Instagram represents my ‘brand’ whatever that brand may be. Stress over not having a brand, don’t you need one to have a successful blog? And just nonstop comparison. Ugly, constant, comparison.
And y’all, this is not the first time I’ve done something like this. As called out by a good friend of mine, I am passionately impulsive. Meaning, I get an impulse and follow it to completion, no matter how crazy it may seem. Perhaps a byproduct of unchecked behavioral issues? I have been this way my whole life, and it always gets me into trouble. I can’t tell you how many bad haircuts started this exact way. Hashtag side-shave…I’m still growing that one out, btw.
But don’t worry, I’m back…again…
I’ve opened my account back up, though it is at all zeros – zero followers, zero pictures, and following zero. And honestly, I’m ok with that. I kind of like the challenge of starting over.
I’ve talked a lot about finding my voice, as a writer and blogger, and it’s taken me a while to figure this whole thing out. I came into the blogging world with a ton of expectations, and not a lot of trust in myself. And just like horrible rash home haircut choices, horrible rash blogging choices help me better understand what I want, what I don’t, and the why of it all.
If you followed me before, thank you! And if I followed you, I’m sorry you lost a follower, I’ll find you again and reconnect! In the meantime, I’m going to start building up my Instagram again, with the things I want to post about and what I want to share, not what I think will get likes or get me more exposure. And if you see me outside of your window with a boombox over my head blasting ‘In Your Eyes’, it’s not creepy, I’m just trying to get you back on my Instagram account.
Thanks for sticking with me, y’all!
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When I was younger, I went with my mom everywhere. We used to visit my grandfather, we’d go to her bookkeeping job, and we’d go shopping. And we talked a lot too. Something that always sticks in my mind, from those day, is the way she’d “cup of coffee” which sounded a lot more like “cupacoffee”. Honestly, thinking back, this may be where my obsession with coffee came from. There is no better sound than my mom saying cuppacoffee. When she talked about...
When I was younger, I went with my mom everywhere. We used to visit my grandfather, we’d go to her bookkeeping job, and we’d go shopping. And we talked a lot too. Something that always sticks in my mind, from those day, is the way she’d “cup of coffee” which sounded a lot more like “cupacoffee”. Honestly, thinking back, this may be where my obsession with coffee came from. There is no better sound than my mom saying cuppacoffee.
When she talked about it, it was always in reference to visiting. She would visit so-and-so, and they’d have cake, and a cuppacoffee, and they’d visit. I guess that’s why it sounded so good, it was an experience, and the experience was sharing and catching up with a friend. And that’s what this post is today. Let’s catch up. Grab a cuppacoffee and a slice of cake and let’s talk!
Seattle and Dispesaries with my Mom
Two weeks ago, I was in Seattle with my mom. Let me clarify, I took my mom with me on a business trip. She’s always wanted to see Seattle, and she figured she’d travel with me and get a free hotel room out of it. Flattering, huh? Now, normally my hotel rooms are pretty roomy, and come with two beds. But not this time. The room was the size of my bedroom, and it had one, full sized bed. Needless to say we got pretty.
When I’m with her, I still feel like a little kid, while getting to have the fun of an adult. It’s pretty special.
I am super proud of my mom and the things she did in Seattle. She wandered out on her own for the first time in her life. She went snowshoeing, she drank mimosas, and she visited the local pot dispensaries. She got a super kick out of this last one.
Two pics she texted me during the week:
A little history about my mom. She always says that she slept through the 60’s. She was not the burn-your-bra, dropping acid, groovy chick that we think about from the 60’s (I know, I know, these are stereotypes, but I’m a child of the 80’s, this is what we were taught!). She was a pretty straight-laced gal, who didn’t know what Woodstock was until years later. And it’s not exactly her fault that she was so out of touch, she grew up in a pretty toxic household and her mind was more on survival than anything else.
As she’s gotten older, she’s gotten bolder and more independent, and it has been one of the great joys of my life to watch. She is by far my favorite person on this planet, and watching her come into her own is downright glorious.
I am Now Living that Work From Home Life
Last time we talked I told you about my new role working from home. Let me tell you, working from home has been an adjustment. Some things I did not expect include:
- Snacks…I literally want to eat all day. And sometimes I do just that.
- Conference Calls…I have about six a day, cause I’m home and that’s how people communicate with me. Which I know, makes sense, but I honestly did not expect it.
- Fresh Air…I used to spend all day in a warehouse, and didn’t get a lot of fresh air, but there is something weird about getting out of bed, sitting at my desk and seeing the outside world right in front of my face, without actually breathing in any fresh air. I’ve made a point to get out either to take a walk or run errands, at least once a day. A really easy fix to this would be to open the window, but my allergies are kicking my ass this season! Someone recently explained it as feeling like wearing a mask under your face, and that is totally spot on. OK, so another easy fix to that would be to take Claritin every day, and I honestly have no good reason for not doing that. Like, literally no good reason, I just don’t do it. Speaking of, hold on one sec while I go take my Claritin.
- Steps…When I was on site, I was walking at lest 5,000 steps a day, and on good days over 10,000. Now I can very easily go all day with only 1,000 steps, unless I make a conscious effort to get up and get moving!
I am not complaining, by any means. I am so happy to be able to work from home. So freakin happy. It’s just a total adjustment and my biggest opportunity is keeping myself on track and off of social media!
On that note, I got two Tweets with major traffic this week! (This may not seem like major traffic to you, but for me more than ten likes, is MAJOR traffic) They were both responses, and one was by far the nicest Tweet I’ve ever Tweeted:
So, I’m like basically still famous.
I am Officially Out of Debt!
When the year started, I created some goals for myself, and one of the most important ones was to get out of debt. And this week, I did it!
My student loan was by far the worst of all my debts, and I literally spent the first four years paying off JUST the interest. $10,000 right down the toilet.
I’ve been living with debt for so long that I cried when I paid off the final bill. And not just a few tears, I cried like a baby. I kept taking these big long breaths, like I’d just gotten on shore from almost drowning. Debt has felt like that more than a few times over the years, and I am so happy to be done with it. I feel like a new person.
I had so much with my last swap box in the Fall, that I signed up to do another one for Spring! I got Lowanda from Sunshine and Elephants. And she knew that this year is all about self-care! She sent me relaxation in a box!
This box smelled soooooo good when I opened it. The bath bomb smells heavenly, I took a bunch of big whiffs from this beauty, and I can’t wait to use it. I love that everything in this box was for relaxation and self-care. It’s spot on. Funny enough, Margarita’s are my mixed drink of choice! And this one is like a Capri Sun for adults. I’m not drinking this year, as part of my self-care plan, but I’m happy to share this tasty treat with my husband. He’s pretty happy about it as well.
If you want to participate in this swap box, make sure to check out Happy. Pretty. Sweet. this week, Ashley included a sign up for the Summer Swap Box in her most recent post.
It feels so good to talk to y’all that I could go on all day. I’m working on a better posting schedule though, so we’ll be talking more throughout the week. I know, I know, I promised that in my last post. Well, at least I’m consistent ;).
So what’s new with you? Tell me something about your week in the comments!
I’m not dead, even though the last time I posted was over a month ago. OVER a month ago! Yeesh. You know when you want to call someone, but you haven’t called them in so long that you start analyzing everything you are going to say to them when you finally talk? And then you do that for so long that it makes the time since the last time you called that much longer to the point where you feel like you can’t call? Well, that’s what I was stuck in. I hadn’t blogged...
I’m not dead, even though the last time I posted was over a month ago. OVER a month ago! Yeesh. You know when you want to call someone, but you haven’t called them in so long that you start analyzing everything you are going to say to them when you finally talk? And then you do that for so long that it makes the time since the last time you called that much longer to the point where you feel like you can’t call? Well, that’s what I was stuck in.
I hadn’t blogged for so long, that all I was doing was thinking about what I wanted to blog about, so much so that I never actually got around to blogging!
But, hey! I’m back now! And there is so much to talk about. So pull up a chair and let’s get down to business! Though, I don’t know why you would be standing while reading this. Unless you are on the subway, then you’re probably standing because there are no available seats. If that’s the case, continue to stand, I don’t want you starting a fight for this post.
First off, I started a new role at my job, yay, which is amazing for a few reasons: one, I am doing something new that I actually enjoy, I was in such a rut at work that every day was feeling a bit torturous. And two, most importantly, the job is remote. Which means I can work from home. Let me say that again, I CAN WORK FROM HOME! Holy moly, y’all. The only career goal I had on the books was working from home. Sure I want to work at a job that feeds my soul, and makes me happy, but until I find that, all I wanted was to work from home. And now, I am.
Side note: I am starting a Work From Home series, because people have told me that working from home is a lot more difficult than I realize and that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I honestly don’t believe it. So, I’m going to be documenting my journey to see if it is in fact harder than I think it is. Spoiler: so far it’s not, though it’s been super fattening! More on that to come.
I just started reading You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero and I already love it. I am trying to wean myself off of social media first thing in the morning, since it makes me batshit crazy and it is officially a horrible way to start the day. So I put this book in the bathroom so that when I’m waking up, or hiding from the children, I can read it and actually feel like I’m making a difference in my life as opposed to getting sucked into mindless nonsense that enrages me.
My goals for 2018 are vast and many, and they include getting myself out of this crazy funk I have been in for so damn long! I honestly think a lot of it revolves around postpartum issues, with a good healthy side helping of mental health issues. My daughter is about to turn three, and this year is the first since she was born that I am starting to feel more like myself.
I’m helping myself in a few ways: bullet journaling has been a continued source of calm and grounding for me. I’ve also gotten back to daily journaling and documenting my gratitude. I know that focusing on the joy in my life has not always been a priority, but when I do, it really makes a difference.
I saw a Facebook live post by CA Miljavac almost a month ago, and it was an emotional one. If you don’t know Carolanne (CA), check her out, she is one of the funniest people on this earth and her feed brings me endless joy. This particular video is heavy, and I cried a few times watching it, but it also gave me this gift that I honestly did not see coming.
The TL;DW (too long; didn’t watch) version is that CA was in a very dark place after her seven year old niece lost her battle against cancer. CA had a moment in her car when she decided to give her life up to God, and in that moment, she said that God spoke to her. And he said “speak.” After that she threw herself into her Facebook page, doing live videos every day and after a year, her page literally exploded. Her posts constantly go viral, she has almost half a million followers, and she is an honest to goodness inspiration.
I haven’t had spirituality in my life since college. Studying environmental science is a really good way to knock the spirituality right out of you. But I’ve always felt like something was missing. I’ve always wanted more. And this video lead to the first time, in a loooong time, where I actually took a good hard look at my spirituality. I wondered what would happen to me, if I gave myself up to God. What would he tell me?
To someone who openly identifies herself as an atheist, this is big. And potentially scary. So I’m not diving too deep into it at the moment. But it feels like there is now a constant knocking at my door, and I know some time soon I am going to have to answer it.
So, yeah, a lot has happened this month. A LOT. I’m psyched to be back on the blog and I actually have more posts in the works. Can you even?! Seriously though, thanks for sticking with me, even after my unintentional hiatus. If you ever need to check my pulse and see if I’m still kicking around, I post regularly on Instagram. I also post irregularly on Twitter.
Until next time! *which I promise you will be sooner than a month from now!
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